Spinster: Women Supporting Women

This post was inspired by Spinster by Kate Bolick, who explores singledom with famous women who fashioned life on their own terms. Join From Left to Write on May 5th as we discuss Spinster. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.


From Left to Write is one of the best things I have ever found via blogging. It has opened many a door (erm or maybe a book) for me, but I have to fully admit with the end of B1’s first year in school, a pregnancy that has been rougher on me than I expected, and a tight turn around on three books for the book club, I just haven’t been able to finish the last one or this one. I know my posting has been sporadic at best, and I have no expectation that it will get better once B2 is here, but I am going to make an effort to write quality content when I can, thank you for sticking with me.

Now, back to the book post!

I’ll be the first to admit that I can’t really relate to the “spinster” title. Nick and I have been together since we were 20 and we’ve been married for most of that time. What I can relate to with this book is that women are expected to do certain “life moments” in a particular order, and they get questioned all the time, while men don’t.

Over time the mentality of society has changed, you don’t necessarily need to get married right out of college, and then have kids after that. There is much more acceptance for the woman who wants to travel and not settle down. Or the women who wants to focus on her career instead of having a family. While you will probably still have that relative that will ask you at the family get-together what you are doing with your life and when you are going to get married or have babies, etc… the general acceptance in society is there.

I have found however, at least in the north-east, that the woman who decides that she does in fact want to get married young and have babies young is judged. It’s as if she (or I) is being judged for not helping other women break ground in changing the ways society view women and what their roles should or shouldn’t be.

For me, I have friends that have married young, have had babies young, friends that never want to get married, friends that don’t want to have children, friends that want to travel the world before the settle down, friends that want to travel with their partner, friends that want to travel with their kids, etc…

This life would be pretty boring if we were all the same, I hope that someday women can just find it in their hearts to support the woman standing next to them, whether or not their lifestyle is one they would want.

Defining What’s Beautiful

This post and my participation in the What’s Beautiful Campaign is sponsored by Under Armour through Fitfluential. My opinions and goals are my own.

I am sure you have all heard by now that Under Armour is having round three of their What’s Beautiful contest, due to some technical difficulties I do not have a team page, YET, but I will.


I think this is one of the most important campaigns I have ever come across, so I’d like to share a bit of my story with you all before I get to the details.

I don’t think I have ever used the words “thin, fit or skinny” do describe myself, even though today I may not be the thinnest girl on the block, I know that I am fitter than I ever have been. I am also not great at accepting compliments, whether it be about a run or someone telling me I am pretty (just ask my husband).

I wish I could say I was surrounded by women who were supportive and uplifting about each others bodies and accomplishments my entire life, but unfortunately from doctors to close family members, most of the women in my life as a child, teen and young adult were the opposite. I was called fat by female doctor, by family members, by the people who were supposed to be my friends. I took up smoking and that is when I lost the most weight and was at my lightest weight, but I wasn’t healthy or fit.


Moving out on my own, finding a gym, a supportive trainer and network of gym goers, helped me initially lose a good chunk of weight. I started working out regularly, bur I didn’t find my drive or passion until after I had B. Then I really found a group of (mostly) women who shared the same goals and passions that I did.

Under Armour is taking this network worldwide with their What’s Beautiful campaign.


From the UA site:

What’s Beautiful is a community and a competition to redefine the female athlete by setting epic goals and pushing past where we’ve ever been and where we thought we could go. Join us. Set your own personal goal. Then document your journey by posting videos and photos that tell your story from start to victory.

We’ll continuously post challenges for you. But that’s just the beginning. Show us your journey. Show us what makes your story the one that stands out from the rest. If you meet your goal, set a new one. Make it even bigger. Prove to everyone, and yourself, that you have more than what it takes.

Complete challenges and share your journey; join teams for additional challenges, support and motivation.

Sounds amazing right? My goal was announced awhile ago, PRing my half time by 20 minutes. Since the What’s Beautiful campaign is only 8 weeks and I won’t be running my half by then I will make smaller goals for each week, goals that will inevitably push me out of my comfort zone and assist me in getting faster (so I can reach my BIG goal).

To join:
Sign up as an individual, and join teams to encourage and support other in your small and large goals. Once my technical issues are sorted out I will link to my team!

The sweet extras:

Every week Under Armour will give away swag bags full of gear to women who are seriously getting it. They’ll also feature profiles on their home page and in the “Top Performers” section of women who are really setting an example.The three women with the most epic personal journeys will win a trip to Costa Rica for four days of yoga and surf lessons, with spa treatments, massages and meals prepared by a personal chef! Not a prize to be missed, you don’t have to be a blogger to enter, all women of all abilities are welcome to join!

Local (Good) News!

UPDATE: The movie times are now updated, the 1:50 pm movie time at the AMC theater on Tremont Street seems to be the best fit. Please still fill out the form below and I will send out information on Friday about the meetup.


I wanted to update you all on the HLB Book Club event, even though showtimes for the AMC theater on Tremont Street still aren’t available for OZ. I am hoping for a Saturday matinée, since Sunday is St.Paddy’s day, I am assuming most of Boston will be a sh*t show and a lot of people won’t be around.


Please fill out the form or leave me a comment or shoot me an email at cupcakekelly21@gmail.com, if you are able to attend, I am hoping I won’t have to see it alone.

Now onto my good news! I am so very excited to share with you all that I am going to be an ambassador for the Zooma Race Series for the Cape Cod location.


I was bummed last year when I realized it was the same day as the Wicked Half in Salem, I knew I was going to HAVE to prioritize it this year.

So who is going to be running with me!? It is going to be a blast :)