Thrive: What do you want your Eulogy to say?

This post was inspired by Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder by Arianna Huffington who encourages everyone to sleep their way to the top. Join From Left to Write on May 1 we discuss Thrive. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.

Thrive-From-Left-to-Write-Book-Club-Banner-2I’ll be honest, I loved the idea of this book and there was tons of great info and tips, but it was also extremely heavy on the data. While I understand it is important, I think it took away from the whole idea of the book, so I did end up skimming some sections, especially data that I had read before.

One of my favorite lines from the book was “Eulogies aren’t resumes”. I think this hit close to him because of what has been going on in our personal lives but it is something that everyone should remember.

When someone passes away, no one talks about the night the closed a big deal with a company, or the time that they stayed up all night working on a huge project. They talk about the love you shared, your friendship and kindness, the times that you made them laugh.

jack and kelly

Not the most attractive photo, but I will always remember this night (even now – almost 9 years later), even if he passed away months after this was taken.

There will always be petty arguments and fights and disagreements, but I think all relationships can make it through those moments if they want to. We also have to be willing to let go of relationships that are long over. Whether it be because you just naturally drifted apart, or because someone did something extremely hurtful.

Then there are those relationships that you need and want to put work into. I am not just talking about marriages. Relationships with family members and with friends.If we are being honest, we will not always agree with our friends, and there might be moments when their words hurt us. Both parties have to be willing to put in the effort to sort through those disagreements and hurt. Often times, coming out on the other side makes the relationship stronger.


I have dealt with a lot of loss in my life, and I am glad have memories with those people who were full of love and laughter.

I am also grateful that my husband knows that the value of the dollar is important, but that he will never choose his work over his family, and I know that I am very lucky that he is like that.

What do you think? Do you believe your relationships are more important than your work?


6 thoughts on “Thrive: What do you want your Eulogy to say?

  1. Relationships are so much more important than work. It’s a lesson I’m learning as time goes on. We stress ourselves out trying to climb the corporate ladder, and don’t put the same energy into our family and friends sometimes. That line in the book definitely got me too.

    • I totally agree, my husband and I have always said when one of us gets too caught up in the work that the other person needs to bring them back down!

  2. Oh yes they are totally more important!!! At the end of my life I want to look back and not feel like I let work get in the way of any relationships that I could have made better. I also love that picture of you with your tongue sticking out – when we can act that silly around someone, it means they are all the more special :D

    • It is so true, I am pretty sure he and I do not have one serious picture together. Work is important, but not the end all be all of your life.

  3. Relationships are ALWAYS more important than work. Culturally, we have to redefine success. I would love more time to spend with my husband and family and friends. That is SO much more important than any job. And I love my job. But I love my life more.

    • I totally agree, there is definitely a cultural difference between here and some European countries and I think those countries value family time WAY more than here, and it is disappointing that not everyone can value family time!

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