The Divorce Papers: My Dream Job

This post was inspired by the novel The Divorce Papers by Susan Rieger. Young lawyer Sophie unwillingly takes her first divorce case with an entertaining and volatile client in this novel told mostly through letters and legal missives. Join From Left to Write on March 18 as we discuss The Divorce Papers. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.

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This book was amazing, and I could write on any number of subjects in regards to it. Since most of my From Left to Write posts end up being about more sad topics, I am going to stray away from the actual topic of divorce and kids in divorces (the number of posts I could write on either is endless). Instead, I want to write about the “dream job”.

During the conversations that Sophie and Mia have in the book, Mia talks about how she wants to be a lawyer, and that she thinks she would do well in that career. It made me go back to my thoughts of trying to put off college when I was a senior in high school.

I had a million career paths I wanted to major in, but not one had I really taken the time to develop any real feelings towards. I wanted to put off school for a year, but my parents refused to let me (even if I am the one paying) because they thought I’d never go. How I feel about that is a post for another time…

I ended up at a private college about an hour away from home. I hadn’t declared a major, but it was probably in partying, I didn’t really care about school and I was doing okay in my classes. The only ones I ever paid attention to were in the English or History department. My second semester was kind of awful, I was driving to Worcester (3 hours one way) almost every weekend to be with my sister and her friends. After a hundred conversations I decided I was going to apply to schools in that city. I got in to two and the third had a stipulation that I needed a higher level math class in order to transfer in. I took that class and ended up enrolling at WPI, not to major in engineering, but for a path that would end up with me going to law school. I did 4 years at WPI and took the LSAT, I actually did well and would’ve gotten into law school, but I still wasn’t sure that it was the right path for me. I ended up in a job with my sister and worked for a little over a year.

I went back to school to get my Master in Education, I was going to teach History for grades 5 – 12. I loved student teaching and I loved the relationships I had with the kids and the other professionals at my schools, for the most part. I hated dealing with the entitled parents who thought I failed their child since the child didn’t do well on an exam or paper. I ended up leaving a school when I was pregnant and I haven’t gone back to teaching since. With all the craziness that has gone on at schools, especially locally, part of me wonders if I ever will. I loved teaching, that part I miss, but there are a lot of political things about teaching that I am glad to be away from.

I still have some of the dreams that I did before I even entered college. Owning a coffee shop and bakery or becoming a photographer. Lately, though I would also love to work at a fitness studio or work in social media, or combine them both!

I fear that I will never find my dream job, and I love this stay-at-home mom thing I’ve got going on, but kids grow up and pursue their dreams, and what happens to mine? Do I just give up on having a dream job?

What is your dream job? Do you have it?

 

22 thoughts on “The Divorce Papers: My Dream Job

  1. I couldn’t have dreamed of being a homeschooling blogger – but I do love it. I don’t think I have gotten to my “dream” job yet because I just keep on dreaming up new things to work on! Very thought provoking post. :)

  2. Though I love my work as a psychologist, it has always been my dream to pursue my writing. A couple weeks ago, I was accepted into a MFA program! I’m keeping my day job, but I am thrilled to be finally living out this long-held dream.

  3. I never thought I would have the career paths that I did (theatre education, sex toy party consultant, blogger) but I’m happy with my journey.

  4. I too wanted to be an attorney and/or a teacher. Sometimes I toy with the idea of getting into teaching but I don’t know that I have the energy to give 100% to a job like that. For now I plod along in my 8 to 5, Mon thru Fri job and I’m happy. It pays the bills and leaves me time for things I love to do, like reading and writing.

    • Teaching is hard, and the burnout is high. I could deal with the kids, but the parents and politics are what make it more difficult. I think if I found a place where 2 out of 3 were easy(ish) to handle then I could figure out the 3rd thing. There are plenty of districts though that are great!

  5. This is a great post! I don’t think I am in my dream job although I do like my job and it pays the bills. I often find myself thinking about what I could do that would be more fulfilling. I would like to do something fitness related but I am not exactly sure what that would be…..

    • I think that is a huge part of the problem for me. I am never exactly sure what I would love, and that holds me back!

  6. I dint think you ever give up on your dream job! I’m still pursuing mine, and I won’t stop until I find it (and maybe try a few to see if they are what I’m dreaming about or not)!

  7. This is a great topic to post about! I’m about to graduate with my MA and I really don’t know what my dream job/career is. I do want to find what’s going to make me happy, even if that means testing out a few different careers along the way until I find what I love.

    • Thanks, Sam! I think that is so important, especially when you have less responsibilities/people depending on you! I hope you find out soon!

  8. We have a lot of similarities! My degree is in Communication, but I worked in a school district last year as an interventionist. I felt so relieved when I left last year (public schools in Indiana are kind of blah right now), and now I’m currently working as a nanny. Ideally, I’d love to use my degree to become a writer outside of my blog or do something in social media!

    • I think all public schools are blah, this core thing is ridiculous, in my opinion. I also think entitled kids are more prevalent and teacher blaming is becoming the response to bad behavior. It’s making a not very desirable career become even less desirable.

  9. I’m excited to read this book but just haven’t had time to do so! I’ve been meaning to ask you, are you reading any of the April books? I’m starting Idea of Him tonight or tomorrow. I hope to actually post about this one and on time too!
    As you know I only recently stumbled into my dream job. It seriously happened so quickly and so randomly. After applying for job after job since I finished my MBA in May I often felt very discouraged. But I didn’t give up and you shouldn’t either. The only way you will never get your dream job is if you give up and stop trying to find it…there’s no other way to look at it. So just never stop keeping an eye out. And don’t worry too much right now about when B grows up and finds his job/life…that’s a LONG way off and you have many happy years left to enjoy with him as his little self.

    • You are definitely my inspiration on dream job happenings, I know when the time is right and I am ready it will happen! I’ve definitely had more karmic universe thoughts and am in a much better place. I am glad we were able to talk book stuff last week haha!

    • Let me know if you do! I think that a job and place of employment that you love is a huge piece of the happiness puzzle!

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